Dear Dorothy,
I am dating a married man and the affair has been going on for the past five years. I am 28 years old and he is 38 with two daughters aged 5 and 7. I am very much in love with him and for the past three years he has been promising me that he will leave his wife and we will settle down together. However this has not happened and I am getting frustrated and tired of his many excuses for not leaving his wife.
The years are passing by and all my friends are settling down.
Please Dorothy, I need your advice.
My Dear,
It is really sad when young girls like you with eyes wide open decide to get involved with married men. When will girls learn, get some sense, and stop dating married men? Nothing good can ever come out of it. As a woman have you tried to put yourself in his wife’s shoes and think of what the wife and family would feel if they find out you have been fooling around with their husband and father. You don’t want to be in the wife’s shoes ever or do you?
As for his leaving his family, he has no plans to do that. He has been promising you this for three years. The only person that has to leave is you. Leave him now. “Married” means he is someone’s husband unless your plan is to be wife No. 2.
You are still young and can find your own single man to make your future with.
Good luck,
Dorothy