If the truth be told, there are so many successful women out there, and most of us men are timid about striking up a relationship with them. A young man once told me how he was very reluctant to approach a girl in his circle of acquaintance because she was “more successful” than him. She drove a brand new car compared to his old car. Long story short, when he realised he liked her very much and asked her out, he found that despite her material success, she was human, humble and proper. Today they are happily married.
When it comes to love and relationships, even though money is important to oil life and living, there are several other things that make the world go round. What is your unique selling point as a man? What can you do for her that she can’t do for herself? She is able to pay her own bills, and takes care of her household without help from anyone.
- Can you offer her high moral integrity and reliability?
- Can you offer her patience and sensitivity? Are You able to accommodate her idiosyncrasies and keep her grounded?
- Can she count on you not to cheat on her?
- Are you going to be loyal to her through thick and thin?
- Is total honesty going to be your watchword in your dealings with her?
- Are you going to prove you are trustworthy in all circumstances?
- Will you adore her?
- Are you trying to always improve yourself and be the best that you can be – a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life?
- Are you financially stable and have a steady source of income? You are not looking for a woman who will support you financially.
- Are you intellectual – able to match her measure for measure when it comes to intellectual engagement? Some of these women hold two different doctorate degrees.
- Are you spiritually developed? No, I don’t mean that you go to church on Sundays or attend night vigils. I mean do you have spiritual discernment, and are conscious how you live and treat others?
- Are you a man with family values, who knows the importance of family life?
- Are you someone who can earn her respect?
- Are you a man that is ruled by reason rather than passion?
- Are you a leader and not a dictator?
- Are you strong enough and tough enough to be a shoulder to lean on and who gets going whenever the going gets tough?
- Are you a man who can lead with his lady as his companion?
So what are you bringing to the table so that you can earn the love and respect of today’s independent woman who can and does take care of herself? Men often say to women – “Are you woman enough for me?” These self-sufficient women are now asking us – “Are you MAN ENOUGH FOR ME?”