Marriage is hard work. Some people have the distorted view that when they are married, all their problems will be solved. They think it is their partner’s duty to make them happy but it is the duty of both parties. If you go into marriage with the wrong expectations, you would struggle throughout. This is why you should be clear about why you are marrying your partner, do they tick all or almost all the boxes and what are you on your part to make the relationship work. Here are 5 red flags to consider before marriage:
1. Lack of communication
Communication is the lifeblood of a marriage. If you and your partner can’t communicate openly and honestly with each other, then there is a good chance that things will fall apart down the road. If you are having trouble communicating, try sitting down and talking about what’s bothering you to your partner.
2. Dishonesty
You can’t build your marriage on lies, that is the pathway to destruction. If your partner is constantly lying to you, then you should realize that they would probably continue the habit well into the marriage. And if you are one that despises lies, the marriage would barely last a while.
3. Disrespect
Many women get turned on by men that are very respectful to women in general. And rightly so. No one wants to be with someone that doesn’t respect them. If your partner is always talking down to you, or if they’re constantly making fun of you, then it’s time to reconsider things. Respect is key in any relationship – especially a marriage.
If your partner is always flirting with other people, or if they’re constantly going out and cheating on you, then there’s a good chance that this behaviour will continue after marriage. If you can’t trust your partner now, how can you trust them later? Your partner will give your sign before the marriage of what to expect, you should be observant enough and know you can’t change them.
5. Unrealistic expectations
This may be surprising but a partner with unrealistic expectations is a huge red flag. If your partner expects you to always be there for them, or if they expect you to do everything for them, then they’re not worth marrying. Marriage is about compromise – both parties need to give and take in order to make things work.