One of the most romantic parts of any wedding is in the few moments prospective couples take time to exchange sacred words of promises – also known as wedding vows. They make lifelong commitments to one another. While it is true that some officiating ministers insist that couples stick with the traditional vows, couples are generally allowed to write down their own vows in their own words.
Here is how to write the perfect wedding vows:
1. Research
This is an obvious tip for writers – the wider the extent of research, the more exposure one gains. So, you can browse the web for wedding vow samples/templates or seek inspiration from romantic poems, novels or even movies. However, beware of using common words or phrases. You can draw inspiration from diverse sources; still, want your vow to be unique and impressive.
2. Organise your thoughts
The big secret to writing is organizing one’s thoughts is in clarity. Brainstorm; think about all the things you love and cherish about your partner. Stimulate your mind through visual aids (such as a stunning picture of your partner), and reflect on why you want to marry him/her.
3. Start writing
Now, you can express your thoughts in words. Start by writing anything and everything that comes to mind. Do not try to attain perfection yet. You can always edit, rearrange, or recompose all or any part of the vow. You might want to create a note on your phone or take a notepad along wherever you go during the period of writing. Sometimes, great thoughts come in the unlikeliest of places, and once you let them go, they might never come back, so put down everything that comes to mind.
4. Be sincere and honest
Select your words carefully and truthfully. Vows are by nature, solemn pledges/promises to do or to refrain from doing certain things. A vow written/spoken without honesty is not a vow. Make sure your vows are true and not just dry words, meaningless words. The whole point of writing a personalized wedding vow is so that you can express yourself, your true self, in relation to your partner.
5. Keep it short and sweet
There are very likely a thousand and one reasons why you want to marry who you want to marry, but more is not always better. Keep your wedding vow witty and intelligent, short and sweet, simple and clear (especially if you intend to recite your vow by heart). Don’t make it long so you don’t bore your guests.