Love is a beautiful thing. When a man and woman decide to marry, it is the union of two imperfect people working to perfection. Some people get carried away with the wedding, they pay less attention to the marriage itself. Knowing that the wedding is for a day but marriage is for life would guide couples from making terrible mistakes.
Just as there are right reasons for marrying, there are also wrong reasons. It is better to avoid marrying for the wrong reasons than face divorce or marital issues. Research shows that the cost of divorce is as expensive as planning a wedding. Besides the emotional trauma and pain is not worth marrying wrongly.
These are 5 wrong reasons to get married:
1. Loneliness
Being lonely is hard. Marrying someone out of loneliness is harder. Marriage won’t make the loneliness go away. Don’t just marry anybody who comes by because you don’t want to be lonely. You should be happy with your own company before letting someone in.
2. Pressure
We all know that feeling when all your friends are married or engaged and you seem to be the only left out. The pressure to join them and break free from singleness can make you make the worst decision ever. You should marry someone you love and are headed in the same direction. This may not happen immediately but it is better to wait than succumb to pressure. At the end of the day, it is only you and your partner left. Nobody will be with you to share your marital decision.
3. Age factor
Age does not necessarily come with maturity. Before getting married, you must ensure you are emotionally, financially, and spiritually ready. Marriage is not for babies. It is for responsible adults. If you are advanced in age and you feel the time is ticking away, you don’t have to jump any option. Everybody can not get married at the same time. When the time is right and you are ready, you would get married regardless of your age.
4. Sex
Some people feel that if they get married, they would have legalised sex without guilt. True but if it all about the sex. Then that means that is all the marriage has to offer. What happens when the man or woman is no longer attractive or other issues come up? There are other things marriage should entail and that is companionship and friendship. If these are missing, then the couples are plain strangers or cohabitants.
5. Family is on your case
Family pressure together with society pressure can push somebody to choose the wrong partner. We understand that parents want their grandchildren on time, but don’t allow them to drive you ‘nuts’. Let them understand that you need to get it right because marriage is for life.