My Dear Daughter,
As we stay connected to what everyone is doing via social media, television and conversation, it is very easy to feel inadequate. And, it may seem that everyone except you is living a fantastic life and fulfilling their purpose.
But, think about it, my dear; don’t you think they are showing you a version of a surreal perfection? Unfortunately, we tend to take what we see at face value and this always leads us to have a feeling of inadequacy which emotionally drains us.
My dear, it beats me why a good number of people are so fixated on comparing themselves and their lives to others: “They look as if they are so happy and successful. I wish I had that.”
I don’t believe in making unhealthy (or any) comparison. I believe everyone must learn to understand their value and learn how to consistently acknowledge their own merits.
My dear, don’t fall into the trap of measuring your life against others. The danger with doing this is that you will in no time forget who you are and what you innately possess. It is in losing or forgetting who you are and what you really want out of your own life that the feeling of inadequacy creeps in. Once you begin to feel less than whom you are, you’ll begin to wallow in these feelings.
My dear, take the time to reflect and determine what success means to you, own it and take steps to attain it. Remember, your version of success doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s, so don’t compare your life to others or hold up their definition of success as the yardstick for your own
Love you always,
Dad