Growing up I thought that only those who are rich or well dressed are people of importance until an unforgettable experience changed that worldview forever.
My dad decided to drop my siblings and I off school at school since he had a meeting at his office in Ikoyi. Moreover, Greensprings School was on his way to work.
On our way, we noticed a young boy trying to board a Danfo (yellow mini bus) but the conductor didn’t let him enter, giving priority to those dressed for work. Didn’t know when I said out loud in a derogatory manner “He obviously isn’t significant enough to board the bus”.
At that point my dad asked in a very serious tone, “What did you say?” Taken aback by his tone, I was wondering if he was going to whack me on my head so I put up my hand to protect myself but he did not hit me. The words that came out of my dad’s mouth hit home more than any physical punishment he may have meted out.
He said, “You are where you are because you are privileged. Regardless, no one is insignificant. There but for the grace of God goes you. We are all equal and made in the image and likeness of God. Everyone is entitled to be treated with dignity and respect.”
Suffice to say, the conductor like many of us have a myopic worldview. Yes, we tend to address people how you are dressed but who says that boy’s itinerary that day was less important than anyone allowed to board that bus. In essence, if our society is to progress, we must all forgo our superiority complex. That, my dad knew all along.
Advice Papa Gave Me written by: Chukwuemeka Anyiam-Osigwe
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