Dear Aunty,
I’ve been going through a difficult phase for a while now. I’ve prayed, hoped, and tried to stay positive, but nothing seems to change. People around me keep saying, “Just believe, your miracle will come.”
But I’m tired. I’m starting to wonder: do miracles actually happen, or is it just something people say to make you feel better?
— Lisa
Dear Lisa,
Let’s start with honesty, not platitudes.
Yes, miracles happen, but not always in the way we expect, or when we demand them.
Most of us grow up with a picture of miracles as sudden, dramatic turnarounds. The job appears overnight. The illness disappears instantly. Life flips from struggle to ease in one sweeping moment. When that doesn’t happen, it can feel like silence… or worse, abandonment.
But here’s the part people don’t say enough:
Sometimes miracles are quiet, stubborn things.
They look like:
- Finding strength on a day you almost gave up
- Getting through another week when you thought you couldn’t
- One small opportunity opening after months of nothing
- A shift in perspective that helps you breathe again
None of these feels spectacular in the moment. But they matter.
Now, let’s also address something important: your exhaustion.
It’s real. And it’s valid.
Constantly “believing” without seeing results can feel like carrying a weight with no end in sight. Faith, hope, and positivity are often presented as endless wells, but the truth is, they run low. That doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human.
So instead of asking, “Do miracles happen?”
try asking, “What does a miracle look like in my life right now?”
Because sometimes, the miracle is not a sudden rescue; it’s endurance, clarity, or even the courage to question things honestly, like you just did.
Also, permit yourself to pause the pressure. You don’t have to perform for anyone else. You don’t have to pretend you’re fine or endlessly optimistic.
Miracles are not rewards for perfect belief.
They are often found in persistence, in people who show up for you, in unexpected timing, and sometimes in ways you only recognise much later.
So yes, miracles happen.
But they don’t always announce themselves loudly.
And in this moment, even writing this letter, reaching out instead of shutting down, tells me something in you is still holding on.
That, too, is something worth noticing.
With care,
Dorothy