Dear Dorothy,
I have been dating a married man for about 3 years. I am 30 years old and he is 44. He treats me like a queen. My man has been promising that he will leave his wife as he doesn’t love anymore and cannot do without me. I hope he would do so soonest so that we can get married. I am not with him for his money as I have a successful career and earn a good income.
I love him very much and as I said earlier, he treats me like a queen. None of my previous dates have been so nice to me. He is a great lover.
The problem is that since he has been talking about leaving his wife for about 2 years, it seem to be just talk as I have not seen any positive action on his part that he is taking steps to leave. I know he loves his two children and this may be what is holding him back.
I really want him to settle down with me and this hurts me and I get very jealous that he can’t make up his mind to settle down with me.
Dorothy I really need your advice. I don’t want to be any man’s side chic. I want to settle down and have my own family.
My Dear,
I am usually at a loss to understand why some people knowing that they are in a dead end relationship still stick with it.
You are in a relationship with a married man for 3 years. He promises to leave his wife and marry you but takes no practical steps to do so. You’re waiting, “hoping” he can leave her, presumably for you?
My dear, who is fooling who? You know the truth. He has no plan to leave his wife and kids. The man is a liar and a cheat and you are aiding and abating his betrayal of his wife and family. Marriage is about honesty and integrity, qualities your married lover does not have.
You want to settle down and have a family – Is it by destroying someone else’s marriage will you achieve this? My dear put an end to this relationship, which has no future, and get on with your life.
You are still young and can make a new beginning. The sooner you dump him, the sooner you can give yourself a chance to get into a relationship with someone without any baggage to deal with.
Good luck.