Dear Dorothy,
It appears I have been totally conned by my girlfriend. We met her online in 2020 and for the first six months, we just talked and chatted. She gave friendly and funny vibes. Every day I looked forward to calling her each night. We finally arranged to go on a date at a selected restaurant. Soon we saw each other, it was like we had known each other for ages. We wished the weekend was longer so we could spend more time together.
After that outing, everything seemed to have changed. Though we still speak, the energy between us has died down. We only meet up when she wants me to buy her things. It appears there are two sides to her – I now get the feeling she doesn’t like my clothes or my opinions, and I often feel I just annoy her. Where did I go wrong?
Yours truly,
Kennedy
Dear Kennedy,
I suspect she thoroughly enjoyed the flirting and the thrill of the chase, but as soon as you met, the excitement died down. Your girlfriend now sees that you’re a normal person, not a fantasy figure. But you have every right to dress and speak as you please – don’t feel you have to change to meet her expectations.
I hate the idea of this woman crushing your confidence and leaving you confused and upset, so I suggest you give yourself a good, long break from this relationship in order to clear your mind and think about yourself and your needs. Tell her today that you need some space, and don’t allow yourself to be anyone’s fool.