Dear Dorothy,
I have always struggled with being photogenic. No matter how hard I try, my pictures never turn out the way I want them to. My friends always look great in photos, but I end up looking awkward or unflattering. It’s really starting to affect my confidence, and I avoid being in pictures altogether. I don’t want to feel this way, but I can’t help it. How can I overcome this insecurity and feel better about how I look in photos?
— Cassy
Dear Cassy,
First of all, you are not alone. Many people feel self-conscious in front of a camera, and the idea of being ‘photogenic’ is often an illusion shaped by angles, lighting, and confidence rather than a fixed trait.
Instead of fixating on how you look in photos, focus on how you feel in them. The most captivating pictures often capture joy, warmth, and personality—things that go beyond perfect poses or symmetry. Experiment with different angles, natural lighting, and relaxed expressions. A forced smile can look stiff, but a genuine moment of laughter or contentment will always shine through.
If you’re really struggling, practise in front of a mirror or take selfies to find angles that make you feel comfortable. Sometimes, it’s just about getting used to seeing yourself in different ways. And if a picture doesn’t turn out as you hoped? Move on. One unflattering shot doesn’t define you.
Most importantly, don’t let a camera steal your confidence. You are more than a still image—your presence, kindness, and personality make you who you are. The best pictures are the ones where you feel happy being yourself.
— Dorothy