Dear Dorothy,
My best friend and her boyfriend are in a tumultuous relationship.
They keep breaking up and making up over and over again. Their recent split seems serious, as it has lasted over four months.
My best friend has been using me as a shoulder to cry on and I have always been there for her with a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, loads of sympathy and my two cents of advice.
However, Dorothy here is my dilemma. I have always liked her boyfriend, as he is, in my opinion, a perfect gentleman who any girl would be proud to bring home and introduce to her parents. It surprises me why he puts up with this high-stress relationship with my best friend who is quite demanding of his time and resources.
About a month ago her boyfriend called me and asked me out for dinner. I thought he wanted to talk about my best friend and how they could get over their recent separation, which has lasted more than usual. Dorothy, it was a great evening of wining and dining. It was at a restaurant with a band and dance floor and we ended up dancing to slow songs.
One thing leads to another and before you could spell stop, we were in bed together at my place.
Dorothy, this whole incidence made me realise how deeply I care for this man. I would like to date him but don’t know what to do because of my best friend.
Dorothy, should I let sleeping dogs lie and not pursue my heart’s desire or let my heart rule my head and go for the man I love him even though he’s technically still my best friends boyfriend. Please advice.
My Dear,
What can I say? Here you are in love with your best friend’s boyfriend and are torn between loyalty to your best friend and the love you have for her boyfriend. You are really between a rock and a hard place.
I am at a loss as to what to advice. It is up to you to weigh how much you value your friendship with your best friend, on the other hand, you may decide to follow your heart and make a play for her boyfriend.
If this is your decision, then the ball falls squarely in the court of the man in question. Will he ditch your best friend for you? I can’t say.
However, I am sure you are aware that if you make a play for the man, that will spell the end of your relationship with your best friend going forward.
Goodluck.