Dear Dorothy,
I attended a conference where I was one of the main speakers.
At the conference the speakers interacted with the journalists who covered the event. One of the lady journalists at the event during the interaction said that she was quite impressed with my presentation and we exchanged cards.
I gave no thought to this except that a few days after, the young lady started sending me personal good wishes via text, which I politely acknowledged. However, over the weeks she has moved from statements like “…Have a great day Sir,” to one of her latest, which ended with “Do have a great night rest dear”.
Dorothy, I think the young lady in question is just infatuated with me. I am happily married and do not which to complicate my life with anyone else, especially with a lady so young. I am in my mid fifties and she is in her early thirties. How do I get this young lady to realize that her infatuation with me has no future without hurting her feelings?
My dear,
I am really impressed that you are conscious of the fact that it is not necessary to complicate your life with a lady twenty years your junior, or any other lady for that matter. Many men your age will feel highly flattered and their ego boosted by the fact that a much younger woman is attracted to them and before they know what hit them are neck deep in an affair which may have sever consequences for their marital state.
The saying goes that “there is no way to make an omelet without breaking an egg”. In this vein, there is no way to put an end to this game without hurting her feelings. So communicate to her in clear terms that though you are flattered, you are not available. And stick to your resolve. If she does not get the message and keeps sending you texts, just delete them from your phone and don’t respond to any. I am sure she will soon get the message and move on with her life.