Dear Dorothy,
I have always been a stickler for my privacy. I am not used to confiding in others and like to keep matters that are personal to me that way.
I have recently got engaged to my boyfriend. I want to know what you think, should close partners be open to each other. For example, should my spouse know the PIN of my accounts and phone passwords?
Please advice.
My Dear,
Most women usually don’t find it easy to be open to their partners as to their financial status at any point in time.
Yes, with most of us love is great, but we don’t think that loving someone is sufficient enough to let our partner into an aspect of our finances.
Trust is a great thing, but trust doesn’t mean that you have to know the PIN of your partner’s accounts and their phone passwords.
Not all things need to be in the open in relationships.
Yes, partners should be open to one another and not keep secrets but it does not mean that everything is shared; it means openness and understanding. If you want to keep your phone and your PIN to yourself then that is your choice and this position should be respected.
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