Dear Dorothy,
As the festive season approaches, I can’t help but feel a growing sense of dread. Everyone seems to have plans with family, friends, or significant others, and it feels like I’m the only one who’s going to be alone. I know I should try to make the best of it, but the thought of spending Christmas on my own fills me with sadness. How can I overcome this fear and still enjoy the holidays?
Yours sincerely,
Loveth
Dear Loveth,
The festive season can indeed magnify feelings of loneliness, especially when social media and advertisements paint an idealised picture of togetherness. However, being alone doesn’t have to mean being lonely, and there are ways to make the holidays meaningful and joyful on your own terms.
Firstly, give yourself permission to feel. It’s okay to acknowledge sadness or disappointment. Ignoring these emotions can make them more overwhelming. Once you’ve processed how you feel, shift your focus to what you can control about your holiday experience.
Consider creating your own traditions. Whether it’s cooking a special meal, watching your favourite festive films, or decorating your space, these small acts can fill your day with comfort and joy. You might even use the time to indulge in a hobby or tackle a creative project you’ve been putting off.
Reach out to others. Loneliness often makes us retreat, but there’s likely someone else who’d appreciate a friendly chat or shared activity. Volunteering at a shelter, joining a community event, or even hosting a virtual gathering can help you feel connected and make someone else’s day brighter too.
Lastly, remember that the festive season is just one chapter in your life. This year may not look like the picture-perfect Christmas of your dreams, but it doesn’t define your worth or future. Use this time to reflect on what brings you happiness and plan steps towards it in the coming year.
You’re not truly alone in this. Many feel the same way, even if they don’t show it. By nurturing yourself and connecting with others, you can turn your holiday into a season of growth, kindness, and self-discovery.
Warm regards,
Dorothy