Dear Dorothy,
I’m overwhelmed by all the things I have to juggle in my life. Between work deadlines, family responsibilities, keeping up with friends, and trying to carve out a bit of time for myself, I feel like I’m constantly running from one task to another without catching a break. Multitasking feels like it’s the only way to keep everything moving, but I’m finding it exhausting and, honestly, a bit demoralising. I often finish my day feeling like I haven’t really accomplished anything worthwhile, and my mind’s a constant blur. How can I manage this constant need to multitask without losing my sanity?
Sincerely,
Sheila
Dear Sheila,
It sounds like you’re feeling the effects of living in an era where multitasking is often seen as the norm—yet, the toll it takes on our minds and emotions can be hefty. The truth is, while multitasking seems like a helpful skill, it can actually spread your attention too thin and lead to exactly the kind of exhaustion and lack of fulfilment you’re describing.
Let’s start with some simple, manageable steps to help you regain control over your time and energy.
- Embrace single-tasking – Believe it or not, focusing on one thing at a time is often more efficient. When you dedicate your full attention to a single task, you’re likely to complete it quicker and with fewer mistakes, leaving you with a greater sense of accomplishment. Start small; try dedicating just ten minutes to a task without interruptions and build up from there.
- Prioritise ruthlessly – Instead of tackling everything at once, make a habit of listing tasks in order of importance. Decide what genuinely needs your attention today and what can be deferred or delegated. By setting clear priorities, you can avoid spreading yourself too thin and focus on completing your most important tasks with care.
- Create boundaries – It’s tempting to feel you must always be ‘on,’ but setting boundaries is crucial. Establish times when you’re truly ‘off-duty’ from work, family, or other obligations. Try notifying others when you need uninterrupted time, allowing you to concentrate without constant distractions.
- Take real breaks – Allowing your mind some real downtime—even a five-minute breather between tasks—can refresh your energy and improve your focus. Small breaks throughout the day can prevent burnout and help your brain feel less cluttered.
- Be kind to yourself – Remember that you’re only human. Perfectionism and unrealistic expectations can make multitasking feel like a never-ending struggle. Celebrate the things you do manage, and don’t dwell on what you didn’t get to. Some tasks can wait.
Multitasking might sound productive, but it’s usually the opposite. By focusing on one thing at a time and setting clear boundaries, you may find a renewed sense of clarity and accomplishment. It’s all right to take things one step at a time—and it’s amazing how effective that approach can be.
Wishing you balance and calm,
Dorothy