Dear Dorothy,
I’ve been in a relationship with a 50-year-old man for the past four years and he’s 15 years older than me. But age is not the problem; I’m one of five women in his life that I know about.
The right thing to do would be to end the relationship, but I’ve been unable to. My parents and siblings don’t approve of this relationship and are putting pressure on me to end it.
At the beginning of our relationship, it was really great as he paid me great attention and lavished me with gifts. Things were going quite well for the first eighteen months of our relationship until I discovered I wasn’t his only woman.
I accepted it, as I was of the opinion that men were polygamous in nature, besides, he treated me really well. However, in the past year, his attitude towards me has changed. He no longer treats me special and I suspect that it’s because he found someone more special to replace me.
He used to be secretive about his affairs around me but nowadays he acts as if he does not care whether I know or not.
I have decided to leave him but it’s difficult.
Dorothy, I need any suggestion you can give me on how to end this relationship.
My Dear,
I can’t help thinking that you were in this relationship for the material comforts that came with it. Even though you knew your man played around you gave the excuse that men are polygamous in nature.
However, truthfully, no woman or man wants to share that special someone in his or her life with another person. You were probably hoping that somewhere along the line he would want to be with you exclusively and, the fact is, he doesn’t want that and being the player that he is, he has probably found someone to replace you as the person to treat “special”.
Think about all the time you’ve wasted on a relationship that isn’t going anywhere. Like any habit; it’s hard to break.
Yes, breaking up is hard to do but you must end this relationship, as it is heading nowhere.
Since your parents and siblings want you to put an end to it I’m sure they will be supportive.
Cease seeing him or communicating with him. It will be hard at first, but it is doable. With time he will just be a bad memory.
You deserve better than anything he has or will ever offer you.
Good luck.