Dear Dorothy,
I am in a quandary. The problem is that my girlfriend’s best friend fancies me. She has made this known to me directly. She is really good looking and sexy, and I also fancy her.
Dorothy, do I dump my girlfriend for her, or find a way to date both of them secretly? Honestly, I don’t know the right thing to do! Please advice.
My dear,
These situations come up often in relationships. You are dating someone, and before you can spell “LOVE” one of your mutual acquaintances makes a pass at you. One has to consider their moves carefully.
- Is the girl in question making a pass at you because she genuinely likes you, or is she jealous of her friend and wants to make her unhappy?
- There is also the question of loyalty on the part of this girl. If she can betray her “best friend” what makes you think that if she takes a fancy to any of your own friends, she will not make a pass at the guy?
- There is nothing wrong with liking or fancying someone, but it does not necessarily have to go beyond that if you are in a serious relationship with someone else. The “right” thing to do in this situation is do nothing.
- Think about the repercussions if you follow through on this attraction. You might get this new girl, but you’ll likely lose your current girlfriend as I doubt that you can date two close friends secretly for long.
But, if you really like her that much and you think you prefer her to your current girl, then I suggest you come clean with your girlfriend and end the relationship before embarking on another.
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