Dear Diary
It’s the second half of the year already and I am still single. At 28, I am few years to the big 30. Older ladies would wonder why I am making so much fuss, but I would getting closer to the dreaded 30. Just so that I make life a bit easier for myself , I am writing down my all the questions in my head on why I am still single till now. I would refer to them in future and have a good laugh.
1.Why am I still single?
Before I answer this question. Let me state that ‘Na Single I Single… I no kill person‘. Okay seriously. I think I have high standards. I want this and that in a man. The men I have come across are not supposed to tick all the boxes but they don’t even tick one at least. Maybe when I turn 30, I would bring my standard down by force.
2. Not even a boyfriend?
I have boyfriends but no commitments. Why be involved in a relationship that there is no future. I can’t afford to waste somebody’s time talkless of my own time. If it is just for fun, I can stick to one but I am intentional about relationship matters. At this stage, it is serious guys only.
3. Are you yourself a wife material?
I try now…At keast I know that if I am not the whole 6 yards, I am 4 yards. That’s pass mark. I am domestic enough, won the best cook at cooking competition. I am improving on my fashion game. I am a graduate who finished with a first class. What’s more? And I am not ugly. A prayer warrior for that matter. I can be too quiet and boring but I am a good friend.
4. Don’t you want to have children before 30?
Of course I do but how is that possible without a husband. Me I cannot be a baby mama for somebody.Why worry about having children before 30 instead of thinking of the emotional and financial ability to nurture and raise them? Children don’t come cheap, you know. The thought of school fees is the beginning of wisdom. I would definitely want the best education for my children. I need to triple hustle first.
5. Have considered changing your approach to get married?
Just enjoying the phase and taking things the way they are. I cannot relocate or change environment because of coronavirus restrictions. I cannot kill myself. Till then, I would live purposefully and happily until marriage.