For the sake of this article, idiot is a word to describe someone who is sick in the head.
Last week, the nation was gripped by the horror of a video of a two year, 11-month-old pupil of Chrisland School, Lekki, Lagos portraying her alleged serial defilement by the school’s supervisor Adegboyega Adenekan, 47. The video was played at the Ikeja Sexual Offences and Domestic Violence Court on Monday, February 12, 2018 where the alleged offender was on trial.
In rage, I texted my abuser, the idiot did not reply. I have grown past his hurts and defilement, but we never had a conversation about it. I was supposed to be little and not know, but I knew. So some thirty-something years after, I decided to text him and let him know I knew. Dude probably thinks I’m coming for him now, and maybe my dad or my mom or the brothers are coming to tear his eyes out. No, we are not. The idea was to trouble your sick head the more because you are sick, sir. I’m liable to change my mind about coming for you anytime.
Pedophiles are sick in the head. Some experts postulate that cerebral dysfunction may be a contributing or dominant factor of pedophilia, including problems with self-control, extreme urges, and cognitive distortions. They also believe that disorders of sexual preferences emerge from childhood experiences during critical periods in human development. There’s a lot of cognitive science and reasoning validating that pedophiles have got some brain dysfunction but that’s not why we are having this conversation. I have already judged anyone who deems it fit to consider a child for sexual reasons as sick whether he’s diagnosed or not.
The society won’t be rid of pedophiles as some pedophiles truly believe that what they are doing is not immoral, and that the victim is consenting. They genuinely believe they are showing the children “love”, like one idiot I found on Twitter. Some pedophiles know that their behaviour isn’t socially acceptable but they cannot deal with people of their own physical age so they explore using children.
The psychotherapists and psychologists will say to subject pedophiles to therapy. Yet there are second offenders, third offenders, serial offenders. Juxtapose this with alcoholism. Alcohol addicts slip sometimes and get some booze, but if a pedophile slips, he won’t be getting high, he will be wrecking another child. If the idiot doesn’t step forward to receive help before slipping, he could be on rampage and molest every child he’s got the opportunity to. Sadly, the hurt continues as people who are molested in their childhood sometimes grow up to hurt other people.
Barry Bennell, the former football trainer, was sentenced to 30 years in prison in the UK recently. He was accused of abusing 12 boys between 1979 and 1991. Before the idiot was convicted, more than 86 complainants came forward to say #MeToo. That’s about hundred children, ONE man defiled 100 children. And here under your nose, is one sick Mr Adewale who thinks your menstruating 10 year old is ready for sex.
Children come first. If we are talking about helping anyone, it should be protecting the children. Can we begin to take away the weapon used by these idiots to damage the lives of so many young children? Why not castrate the idiots since their urge is incontrollable? That way, we would have taken the weapons away from the madmen. Further, we should build asylums for the ones who think children are capable of consenting to sex or loving a child is synonymous to defiling the child. Lock them away forever!
And shout out to those who believe their brothers, cousins, fathers, aunties against a three-year-old in a sexual accusation. I know you are trying hard to deny that paedophilia exists in your communities or homes or worship places, but we owe it a duty to listen to that innocent child, follow his or her body cues. You may be housing a paedophile or probably paying someone who is messing with your child. How much time have you invested in sex education with your child or ward? Does the child know what an inappropriate touch is? Will a child under your care be able to trust you for protection?
There are paedophiles around, live with that reality, protect the child and fight for the child if you ever have to. Children don’t lure adults, and if you believe that nonsense about your teenage house help enticing your husband, you may have just helped your paedophile husband in acquiring a sex slave. Oga is sick I tell you, but if you still don’t believe me, you may also need to see a counsellor.