No marriage is the same. Every marriage is peculiar and different because each person in a marriage is unique, and so is their relationship. Nobody enters a marriage with the hope of divorce. However, there are issues or red flags that can threaten a marriage’s longevity and cause the couple to part ways. These includes:
1. Lack of mutual respect and trust
A good and healthy marriage is built on mutual respect. When one partner doesn’t feel respected by the other, it can lead to isolation, abandonment, loneliness, and resentment. It is vital to have a partner who respects and trusts you and vice versa.
2. Domestic abuse
Domestic violence can be both physical and emotional abuse. Being a victim of one or both of these is a difficult road to tread. It may be difficult to divorce as you may be afraid of what your spouse will do to you or your children if you leave the marriage. When any type of domestic abuse happens, divorce should be a top consideration to protect oneself and one’s children.
3. Lack of intimacy
Intimacy is like the glue that holds a marriage. It is not just about sex; it may also refer to a broad sense of closeness or liking for your partner. If one party no longer seems interested in sex, snuggling, or simply spending peaceful time together, it could mean your marriage is headed for divorce. Infidelity can be triggered by a lack of closeness, or it might be a symptom that is already occurring. When one person needs more closeness than the other, they may be pushed to find love elsewhere. Similarly, if they find intimacy with someone else, they may lose interest in their marriage.
4. Infidelity
Infidelity is a big indicator that your marriage is headed for divorce if the cheating spouse desire to move on from the marriage or the cheated spouse’s inability to move past the transgression. However, infidelity can be a chance for spouses to rekindle their love and appreciation for one another.
5. Financial concerns
The saying that there is no romance without finance holds true. Every family’s finances are different, however, problems with budgeting, spending, and even gambling can come up and put a strain on a marriage. If husband and wife can’t agree on how to spend or save money, divorce will show its ugly head anytime soon.
6. Communication issues
Effective communication is essential for the success of any marriage. Failure to communicate in a healthy manner may quickly ruin any marriage, whether it’s a refusal to express their feelings or “the hard things,” or the fact that attempting to do so always results in a meltdown.
7. Distress
If your marriage causes you distress and you don’t feel loved or the spark of attraction, it is possible you are not feeling the marriage any more and divorce may be the best escape route. Research also shows that marital tension is linked to medical conditions. In fact, research has shown that couples who are under more marital tension have a faster deterioration in health than those who are in happy relationships.