Dear Dorothy,
Trust you are well and safe. I am having issues with differentiating between submission and obedience with my husband. Does being submissive mean that I have to agree to everything he says? According to my beliefs, as my man’s helpmate, I am supposed to be submissive. My misunderstanding of this notion has been causing friction in the family. Can you better illustrate what it means to be a submissive wife?
Regards,
Anita
Dear Anita,
Trust you are keeping well this period. Hope you are being kind to yourself too. The issue of submission has been long debated. It does not necessarily mean you have no mind of your own. It just means you have subjected yourself to authority. You are better submissive as an empowered woman. If you don’t have anything that you are bringing to the marriage, you are a liability and have no say. However, if you are qualified, empowered, and efficient, you are in a better position to be a submissive wife. For example, if you want to travel to another country and you paid for your tickets but your husband says you should wait for valid reasons, and you agree, you are submissive. You are empowered enough to buy your own tickets without begging for it. If without any reason and you need your husband to support you both financially and emotionally, you are just being obedient if you accept his reason for not travelling. Being obedient is not bad, but being submissive puts you as an empowered woman who is under authority. I hope the illustration helps. You need to be an obedient and also submissive wife.
Sincerely,
Dorothy