by Bimbola Segun-Amao
Sex is designed to be pleasurable and enjoyable yet for some not few women, sex comes with pain. Now, if you are just getting into the groove and inexperienced, sex may hurt for no alarming reason; you are still tight down there and may take some more frequent visits before you feel at home with being prodded (delightfully).
Asides this, there are some other causes of pain for a woman during sex:
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She may not be sufficiently lubricated. This can be remedied by investing more time to kisses, cuddles and foreplay. Many women would be well lubricated in half an hour of skilled foreplay; aim for that or get a lubricant.
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The fear of being hurt can cause pain; deep and superficial. It’s called vaginismus – a spasm of the vaginal muscles. Different life experiences could be responsible for vaginismus; history of rape, childhood sexual abuse, and restrictive upbringing with inculcated ideas about sex being dirty or painful. Vaginismus can be treated by therapy, you could have heard it before that the brain is the most important sex organ, what you think of sex and how you think about it determines the height of pleasure it brings.
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If there is maximum penetration and the penis touches her cervix, she would feel the pain. This can be sorted between both partners, she knows how deep is ‘deep’ for her from her man; it’s relative.
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Other health factors may also be responsible for pain during sex; fibroid in the uterus, endometriosis, Pelvic Inflammatory Diseases, STDs or even soreness from childbirth or an episiotomy.
Bleeding or pains during sex should not be discarded or kept to oneself alone. Painful sex affects quite a handful of women and can be rectified medically or through sex therapy. See a doctor if pain has denied you of the pleasure of sex; you may get busy beneath the sheets pretty soon than imagined.
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