LEAVING A TOXIC MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP IS HARD; I PERSONALLY COULDN’T LEAVE CAUSE I HAD LOST MYSELF IN THE MARRIAGE BEGUILED BY RELIGION & CULTURE 
LEAVING IS NOT AUTOMATIC, HERE ARE SOME TIPS BASED ON MY LIFE EXPERIENCES…….
… FIND A RELIABLE FRIEND TO CONFIDE IN ( DON’T BE LIKE ME, L WAS CONFIDING IN ONE OF HIS SIDES
… GET SPECIALIST SUPPORT, YOU CAN POP INTO A LOCAL CHARITY ‘DROP IN’ CENTER. SEARCHING ONLINE CAN BE RISKY CAUSE YOUR PARTNER CAN TRACK YOUR ONLINE SEARCHES…
…KEEP A RECORD OF EVENTS, ABUSIVE INCIDENTS, EVIDENCE OF YOUR PARTNER’S BEHAVIOUR SAFELY, TIME, DATES, NAMES & HOW YOU FELT, RECORD THEN TRANSFER TO A USB STICK & KEEP SAFE. 
.. KNOW YOUR CIVIL & LEGAL RIGHTS!! ( DON’T BE BAMBOOZLED LIKE L WAS) 
….FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE…. SAVE, PUT MONEY AWAY IF POSSIBLE. IT’S HARD CAUSE L KNOW THAT WELL. 
……MAKE/ HAVE COPIES OF PASSPORTS, BIRTH CERTIFICATES, MARRIAGE CERTIFICATES, YOU CAN KEEP THESE OUTSIDE THE HOUSE, MAYBE A NEIGHBOUR OR TRUSTED FRIEND 
…PLSSSSS DIAL 999, ALWAYS CALL THE POLICE ( DON’T BE LIKE ME ALWAYS CALLING PASTORS )…ALSO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN HOW TO CALL 999….. OR CALL 101 TO REPORT NON EMERGENCY…..
