Situationships can be defined as a romantic relationship that lacks commitment and the associated norms and expectations. Here is how to know if you are in a relationship or situationship:
1. There is no growth
If you’re feeling stuck and that you aren’t hitting milestones in your relationship (first time meeting each other’s friends, celebrating small anniversaries, doing new activities together, etc.), it’s probably time to reality-check your relationship—or, erm, lack thereof.
2. There are other people involved
If you discover that your significant other is romantically/sexually involved with one or more other people, you may be in a situationship.
3. You only make short-term plans
People in relationships make plans weeks, months, sometimes years in advance. People in situationships may operate on a more hourly and daily timeline.
4. No consistency
One major appeal of a legit relationship is that you can count on seeing and talking to your person regularly. Situationships lack that.
5. Vague excuse
When you’re in a relationship, you make time for your partner, no matter what other life events are going on. But in a situationship, she adds, there’s no urge to problem-solve.
6. You dirty talk than have real talk
You’re more comfortable talking dirty than talking about your fears, insecurities, or lessons from past relationships.
7. No talk about the future
If you haven’t had a discussion about the future and what you’re looking for, that could be a sign you’re in a situationship
8. Your partner does not take you serious
The easiest way to know you’re in a situationship: The person tells you that you’re in one.
9. Your partner leaves signs they are not into you
People will show you through their actions what they think of you. If they’re not calling, they’re just not that into you.
10. Boredom
In a situationship, you probably do the same thing over and over. So you both get bored.