Dear Dorothy,
I’m a 53-year-old woman who has been married for nearly 23 years and my husband and I have 3 children. The marriage has been quite turbulent because my husband is a serial cheater.
I’ve had to put up with his betrayals over the years because of our children, but now, the children are grown and only one left in the university, the other two are graduates.
I am thinking of finally ending my endless heartaches in this marriage. I discovered his cheating ways after ten years of marriage and since then it has been 13 years of mental and emotional torture for me. Please advice.
My Dear,
I think that your decision to end your marriage is a sound one given that (as you said), it has been 13 years of mental and emotional torture for you.
The truth is that we all react to betrayal in different ways but there is no gainsaying that a betrayed party goes through mental and emotional pain to varying degrees. One can only imagine what you have had to endure with a husband who is an unrepentant serial cheat.
You are still young enough to make a good life for yourself free of a philandering husband.
As an aside, I think that you will gain insights with respect to why people have affairs and how people deal with them from an article by Gery Karantzas, which we published, in the Love and Sex column last week – https://pridemagazineng.com/its-not-just-sex-why-people-have-affairs-and-how-to-deal-with-them/
Good luck