Dear Dorothy,
Trust you are good. I have an issue. It has to do with dating a younger man. Our age differences leave me worried. He is three years younger than me. According to him, age is just a number and he is not bothered. But I feel bothered especially what the society would say. We have a culture where the man is usually older than the woman. It shows that he is responsible and mature enough to take care of her and raise a family. Do you think I am making the wrong choice with a younger spouse?
Regards,
Lara
Dear Lara,
Hope you are doing well. Age has nothing to do with maturity and responsibility. Never use it as a yardstick to measure these. Your partner might be younger than you in age but is wiser and stronger in reality. The thing about the age difference gap can leave you uncomfortable. You should note that would be subject to public ridicule, but you have to stand your ground for the love you have for your partner. You may have issues stemming from your age differences and understanding of different things, be prepared to adjust for him. While age doesn’t tell you far along a person is in life, chances are you both have different experiences and views about life. It would be a good idea to talk about this in the dating phase if you intend to go long-term.
Moreso, have you thought about your in-laws? If they don’t mind, then why bother. You both can go ahead with your future plans. Men who date or marry women that are older may have issues with commitment, eventually, get tired of the affair, and long for something fresher. But if he is the committed type then you know you are in safe hands. First of all, change your mentality, that it can work with a younger man and get your in-laws to accept you for who you are. Society may frown at your relationship but they have no say because they won’t be with you in your house with your partner. I hope this helps.
Yours sincerely,
Dorothy