Dear Dorothy,
I have been involved with a married man for about two years now. He’s 45 and I’m nearly 30, he’s also my boss in the office and everyone in the company knows what’s going on.
He says he wants to be with me and not his wife because he doesn’t love her any more. But, he says that her emotions are fragile and would have to be careful how he breaks up with her as they’ve been married for 18 years and have two children together.
My man insists that he cannot live without me and that I make him very happy. He also says he loves me.
I think the excuse he gives for not leaving his wife is lame. I think it’s because he married into money and is scared of leaving and maybe sacrificing all the comfort of his soft living.
I am not getting any younger and I would like him to divorce his wife so that we can start our life together. He says he hates keeping me on hold while he finally figures out how to break up with his wife without too much rancour.
Do you think he will ever give up his wife for me or is he just stringing me along and loving it?
Dorothy, I need to know what to do with my life as the biological clock is ticking. Please advice.
My Dear,
When will you wake up to reality? He swears he loves you and the sun shines from where you are in his life yet he won’t leave her to be with you because he is scared of losing the wealth he is married into or so you reckon?
If he loves you as much as he says he loves you then I don’t see why he can’t leave his wife and make a life with you. He needs to man up and stop being a deceiver – his wife and you deserve better.
To be honest, I think he’s feeding you a load of rubbish.
He’s stringing you along because he has the best of both worlds – a cosy home with a loyal wife and a whole separate life with you.
You need to wake up to the fact that you’re having an affair with a married man – stop romanticising it.
Please end this relationship and find yourself a single man who does not have to spin stories to keep you. My dear, a relationship with a married man is quite toxic and draining. You don’t need this hassle in your life.
End this affair so that you can get on with your life. Good luck