Dear Dorothy,
I am jealous of my best friend with my boyfriend. How can I get over this? What should I do?
Yours Sincerely,
Lucy
Dear Lucy,
This is a dicey situation as it involves two of the closest people in your life. It is natural to feel overprotective or ‘jealous’ of your boyfriend around other women. Around their male friends, often partners feel safer. But if someone of the opposite sex begins to have a connection with a loved one; the temptation is to automatically assume that they want to intrude into your relationship.
It is likely your boyfriend and best friend care about you, so if they were aware that this was making you uncomfortable, they might tone it down. How about talking to either of them about this?
If they are just flirting with one another then why not ask how they would feel if their best friend was hitting on their boyfriend or if their partner was flirting with their best friend? People often don’t realize the error of their actions until you can show them you can do the same to them.
If it is just them being around one another, at the end of the day your partner comes home to you at the end of the day. He may have a laugh with her but if he wanted to leave he could- be rest assured that he is still with you. Whatever connection your boyfriend and best friend have together- it appears yours is stronger and holding his interest or else your boyfriend would have called it quits with you already.
Yours Truly,
Dorothy