Dear Dorothy,
I’m struggling with an issue that seems to define me—being a workaholic. I love my job, but it feels like my entire life revolves around it. I often work late into the night, skip meals, and even sacrifice weekends. My friends and family have started to comment that I’m never available, but I feel guilty whenever I take a break. It’s as if resting is wasted time. At the same time, I feel burnt out, lonely, and anxious. How can I strike a balance without losing the drive I’ve worked so hard to build?
— Lisa
Dear Lisa,
Thank you for writing in. It’s admirable that you’re so dedicated to your work, but it’s clear that this dedication is starting to take a toll. Balance, while elusive, is essential for a fulfilling life.
Workaholism can often feel like a badge of honour, especially in a society that rewards productivity. However, you’re more than your job, and your worth isn’t defined solely by how much you achieve at work. A constantly running engine will eventually overheat, and the same applies to you.
Start by redefining what success means to you. True success includes not just professional accomplishments but also strong relationships, good health, and moments of joy outside the workplace. Schedule time for self-care and leisure as non-negotiable appointments, just like you would for a crucial meeting.
Learn to set boundaries. For example, establish clear working hours and resist the urge to reply to emails late at night. Delegate tasks where possible, and remember that saying “no” to additional work isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a step towards self-preservation.
Reconnect with hobbies or interests that don’t involve work. Whether it’s joining a book club, going for nature walks, or simply spending an evening with loved ones, these moments will recharge you.
Finally, consider talking to a professional. A counsellor or therapist can help you untangle the guilt you feel about resting and offer strategies to manage anxiety.
Remember, life isn’t just about crossing the finish line; it’s about enjoying the journey. By striking a healthier balance, you won’t lose your drive—you’ll simply ensure it fuels you for the long haul.
Take care,
Dorothy