Dear Dorothy,
I want to share my experience with your readers. I have never felt beautiful despite the fact that my parents, friends and family say that I am quite good looking and attractive. I have a good job, which requires that I dress corporately, so, I am usually well dressed and ritzy.
About five years ago I got married to the man I loved (I also thought he loved me too).
But unfortunately, he turned out to be a very jealous, controlling and abusive man with a very bad temper. I stayed in this abusive relationship because I wasn’t confident in myself and I thought I wouldn’t find someone to love me in my late thirties.
When my family came to learn about the abuse, they urged me to end the relationship because they never really approved of my marriage in the first place.
And then I had a miscarriage. I was broken and saddened about the loss of my baby and I couldn’t bring myself to eat or drink anything in the hospital. I was mentally preoccupied with the loss and how I had arrived at that sorry state when it dawned on me that I had to summon the courage to end my marriage.
When my husband came to visit me in hospital, I couldn’t contain my anger. I screamed at him and told him what I thought of him. All the pain, tears and sorrow that I had endured at his hands over the years arrived at its peak with the loss of our baby.
Despite his prolonged apology and his claim that he didn’t mean to hit me on that fateful day that caused my hospitalization and miscarriage, I knew it was time to say goodbye and go our separate ways.
I have come to the realization that I did not need someone to “Love me to death” and I should quit while I’m alive. Because I was in an abusive relationship, I knew a number of women experiencing the same thing. We hide the abuse from friends and family and always make excuses for our abusive partners while defending their actions.
This is what happens to most people who think they do not deserve true love. They stick with the wrong person because they fear no one will love them.
My advice to fellow victims is to summon the courage to end an abusive relationship. Being alone and lonely is far better than suffering in an abusive relationship.
My Dear,
Thank you for sharing. It is unfortunate what you have been through but I pray that you’ll heal from the hurt, and get your life back on track.
The truth is that we are all beautiful in our own way. You can read the article: Everyone is Beautiful. No Kidding
https://pridemagazineng.com/everyone-is-beautiful-no-kidding/
I identify with what the author says about beauty in this article.
Everyone has to learn to love and appreciate themselves. If you do not love yourself, you’ll be unable to differentiate between true love and false love; because a person with self-love understands the dynamics of love.
Loving yourself isn’t an act of selfishness or pride; rather, it is an act of self-respect and regard. Most people go through life waiting to be loved, and though this is great, it is more important to fall in love with yourself first.
Maybe no one ever told you this, but you deserve to be treated with dignity and love. You should not allow people to mistreat you, let alone abuse you emotionally or physically. The more time you spend trying to appreciate who you are, the more confident you’ll become. Good luck.