Dear Dorothy,
2024 has been a whirlwind, and as the year draws to a close, I find myself in a familiar position – far from where I hoped to be. At the start of the year, I set ambitious goals for my career, fitness, and personal growth. But now, with the calendar quickly flipping, I can’t help but feel like I’ve failed.
I didn’t get the promotion I worked so hard for, my fitness journey fizzled out by March, and I barely scratched the surface of the books I planned to read. My friends say I’m being too hard on myself, but I can’t shake off this heavy sense of disappointment.
How do I cope with the regret of an unproductive year and find the strength to move forward?
Yours sincerely,
Fiona
Dear Fiona,
First, let me assure you that you are not alone. Many people feel deflated as December looms, caught in a cycle of self-criticism over unmet expectations. But what if I told you this wasn’t failure but simply feedback?
Life rarely unfolds in straight lines or neat timelines. Ambitious goals are commendable, but they also invite obstacles and learning curves. The fact that you had dreams to chase says a lot about your determination, even if the results didn’t match your hopes.
Let’s reframe the narrative. Instead of focusing on what didn’t happen, consider what you gained this year. Did you develop resilience, learn a new skill, or discover something unexpected about yourself? Reflecting on the wins—big or small—can help shift your mindset from regret to growth.
Now, about moving forward. Start by setting more flexible goals for the year ahead. Break them into smaller, manageable steps with realistic deadlines. Celebrate progress, however modest. And remember: fitness, promotions, and personal growth are not confined to calendar years. Life is not a sprint but a marathon.
Finally, be kind to yourself. Would you berate a friend who tried their best? Likely not. Extend that same grace inward. You haven’t failed – you’ve simply lived, learned, and laid the groundwork for your future.
2025 is a blank page, and you hold the pen. Write your story with curiosity, compassion, and the courage to try again.
Warm regards,
Dorothy