Hi girls, I know this sounds a little weird, especially in this part of the world where the onus is on the guys to make the first move; say it first, act first, and of course, man up and stir the wheels further.
Let me shock you. Do you know Britney Spears made the first move on her now- fiancé?
Now I know what you’re thinking…Hell no…Never! That is Britney. If he can’t man up to come ask me out, then let it be.
OK. I know your ego has got a good grip on you but what if he never comes? What if he’s probably shy? Will you allow that flood of emotion you feel for him die a pathetic death? And for how long are you going to be putting up that façade whenever you see him? Except if waiting is fun for you, which is definitely not.
If the above concerns you, here are 5 quick and stylish ways to hook him down right before he can spell his name.
Before that, though, here are two very important things you may not have known about guys.
– Guys are easier to talk to: yes! Forget that masculine strong front we wear on our faces. You girls can melt us down with a polite request. Need I tell you, you’re more powerful than you think?
– Guys want you more than you want them: I know my fellow guys will kick my butt for revealing this. We definitely won’t want to show it but hey, it’s the truth. Don’t take advantage of this, anyway.
Okey-dokey, let’s get into the quick and stylish ways to ask a guy out.
1. Be real with your feelings
Maybe you don’t know, but we understand very well when a lady is flirting with us, even without her showing it. You might want to deny it, but your eyes won’t, your body language even better screams it out that it almost always blocks our virtual ears. I kind of cringe when I notice this. This long age quote might help: “man (gal), be thyself!”. If you like him, don’t pretend not to.
2. Never come desperate
Yes! It’s a red flag (in fact, with a very loud siren) that sends us 10miles away from you, instantly. When you make it look like ‘you want it right now!’, trust me, we can only play games with you (except that’s what you want) but if you want a long lasting relationship, allow time work things out, but you have to be smart about that. How? Keep him real close and never let him slip off the communication lane.
3. Forget your fears and just go for it
Admitted. We guys find it a little intimidating seeing a girl come to ask us out, but it can be very refreshing. It proves two things: first, that the girl is a real person who is never afraid to express how she feels and secondly, she’s got high self-esteem and confidence to take home. Either of that is just as cool for keeps.
4. Use the spare ticket trick
If you know the kind of movies he likes, you might want to surprise him to a cinema. How about this: “Hey Michael, I heard the Half Of A Yellow Sun premieres this Saturday. I’ve got two tickets, do you mind?” Guess my response. “Oh. My. God! I sure do…” Now you just worn him over and anything can happen at the cinema (Tip: make sure it’s more of a romantic movie else, there might not be a connection).
5. Develop a smart exit plan
Yes, what you want wants you, but sometimes it can take the other way round, or even worse. So just in case, have a plan B. Make sure you develop capacity to accept a no. It could be, he isn’t ready at the moment, and to force him into a decision will make you look desperate. What do you do? Stay calm and make him understand that you do understand. Trust me, it will melt him down and make him come for you the shortest time possible. The greatest mistake though, is to make him an enemy afterwards. You’d ruin everything and that, gal, will make you look cheap.
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Now it’s time to go get the guy of your dreams. You don’t have to wait for him anymore. Remember, he wants you more than you want him.