My Dear,
The underlining issue here is, though you and your boyfriend have been together for a while; your relationship may have gotten stale and boring. This is the trap most couples who have been together for some time fall into. There is a high tendency to take each other or the relationship for granted. So, when someone attractive and charming comes into the picture, you pay more attention to him than you should. It can be flattering.
The initial feeling for anyone new is always exciting. You probably felt the same way with your fiancé when you first met him, but you’ve gotten too familiar with each other that those feelings are beginning to fade. This is the reason I advise couples not to get lazy with their love towards each other, rather consciously fan the flame of love.
Ask yourself these:
- Aren’t you replacing the lack of excitement in your relationship with the stirrings of new love for your colleague?
- At the inception of your relationship, didn’t your fiancé make you feel as desirable and attractive as your colleague makes you feel?
What you may be missing in your relationship is the spark and excitement that was once present.
My Advice
You’ve admitted to loving your fiancé, so you and your partner need to make an effort to rekindle the flame of excitement you once had in the relationship before taking the decision to end things for an uncertain future with the new man in your life.
If this doesn’t work, and you still feel a gap despite all efforts, lie in bed at night and think deeply about your life without your fiancé; maybe even imagine him with someone else. If you strongly believe it’s really over for you both, admit it to yourself, and make a clean break from him before moving into a new relationship with your colleague.
Also, it is dangerous to consider marriage while having these feelings of uncertainty. Do an honest appraisal of your relationship with your fiancé and take your decision on the way forward after this. Good luck.