Relationships do not require 50:50, they actually need 100:100 commitment from both parties. As a couple, you are going to be stuck with daily routines that there is nothing more to look forward to. You can keep the relationship spark alive; the one from the onset that made you have butterflies in your tummy by creating new experiences and memories together. Here’s how:
1. A proper date night
Stop the typical date night and take it up a notch. A date night that you travel separately with your partner. This way when you arrive you can take on a different persona and maybe do a little role playing which would be sexy and fun flirting
2. Be spontaneous
Go out and try new things together. You could try activities that help push your partner to their limits e.g. kayaking, water skiing – activities that keep things active.
3. Write love notes
It might seem like a small gesture, but leaving little love notes for your partner can actually go a long way. Leave them around the house or slip them into your partner’s lunch. Even send cute and flirty texts throughout the day. Get your partner wanting you again and wanting to get home to you.
4. Revamp your appearance
Maybe you’ve gained a bit of weight after having kids, but whatever it is you’re unhappy with about yourself, it’s time to work on it. Get back into a gym and start feeling sexy again. Go get your hair done, get waxed or get a pedicure – whatever you need to do to get that confidence back.
5. Try new things in the bedroom
You could try new things and maybe bring in sex toys into the room if that’s going to spark it up or watch movies – do whatever is going to bring on that intimacy. Talk with your partner to find out what they like. This will help both partners find the other’s “love language” – what they like and dislike when it comes to intimacy.