“Can you serve a cold beer and hot tea in delicate lingerie and stilettos? Can you pound yam till it’s even fine without seed? Can you keep a house without cobwebs? Can you iron shirts till you leave razor sharp creases? Can you tidy a bed as seen in Protea Hotel? Do you love football and Cristiano Ronaldo? Can you blow your head off for a man? Then you are the ideal candidate…apply here for auditioning to marry Prince Earth.”
One may not see this auditioning advert on Facebook or the dailies but it’s the approach subtly taught women on how to ‘catch’ a husband; a desperate auditioning list in the mind to be a Mrs. She has to be ‘nice’, puts his needs above hers, care for him, dote over him, submit her life and purpose to him, live for him (and maybe die for him). A woman is frequently told to work harder to please a man; ‘pray for him’, ‘support his dreams and team’, ‘love his friends’, ‘wash his clothes’, ‘tidy his house…’love his dog’.
All of these are not bad in their own rights but they don’t amount to much if you are an easy girl. An easy girl lies down like a cheap linoleum, she can only be peeled off floor. She accepts everything life and guys bring her way, she can conveniently excuse bad manners consistently, she is the ‘whatever-you-say’, ‘yes-honey’ kind of girl. She adores him so much she can lie down in traffic for him. If per chance they just had a bad meal in a restaurant and the guy asks for her opinion, she says ‘they tried’ after forcefully swallowing the salty meal served her. She’s constantly afraid of shooting straight or letting the guy know she has a different opinion.
Coming across as an elegant Barbie which nods all the time only brings pleasure to a mean man. Mean men love stupid girls because she would do as she is told all the time without batting an eye-lid.
Bending over backward to show ‘how much you care’ at the expense of a show of intelligence may not bring you the love you crave; having your life, your mind intact, your goals and a solid backbone will. A ‘correct bobo’ would prefer a girl who can hold down her own, a girl who has a realistic plan of how she wants to run her life and what she wants out of life.
See, when a guy likes you, he wants to know what you like. If you wouldn’t have tea for all you care in your house, don’t hang around him and say ‘tea is fine by me’ because he loves tea. Go get your beverages and make your chocolate drink. Tell him what you like, if he likes you enough he makes it a full time devotion to offer you pleasures. But you won’t get that if you auditioned for the role!!!!
Trash the audition advert in your head, Prince Earth needs a Mrs, but let him find it. You be in control of your life, be you, live your dreams, bring your A-game with you all the time and play it well. You are designed to be a power-broker, you can’t function effectively if you whimper around with desperation. If you really care about auditions, write a profile you want him to fit into, not the other way around.
On a lighter mood, say “Can he run 100km without fainting? Can he carry a 60kg woman without flinching? Can he do the grocery shopping without leaving out anything on the list? Can he dance with a crying baby with no music without fretting?”
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