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By Charles Anyiam-Osigwe
What is the number one reason given by most couples for their getting a divorce? You guessed it – “irreconcilable differences.”
Now, these differences can be many and varied, but often times it boils down to sex and money. You better believe it, the biggest reasons for divorce are sex and money differences.
As this is the case, couples contemplating marrying each other should try to find out how compatible they are in these two very important areas of married life. Don’t get me wrong, I am not a supporter of premarital sex but intending marriage couples should find a way to figure out their sexual compatibility before tying the knot. It makes sense to figure this out while dating, because once married, the challenges you experience will only be amplified.
Mismatched sexual energy is no laughing matter. Clearly, you love your partner, but as a young, vibrant male or female you deserve a steamy intimate sex life as well. If one partner does not find answers at home, his or her eye could start wandering.
Now, to the second thorny issue in a relationship – Money. It is important that couples before they tie the knot talk about this subject they may find awkward to broach. Money is important to life and living and in order to avoid money issues after marriage, every couple should really reach an honest understanding on how they plan to deal with their finances. Different people earn different salaries, and have different spending habits, and this can be a cause of friction in a relationship.
Some people think that money is not overly important, whereas others believe in squirreling every penny away to save for a rainy day. Whatever your attitude to finances, it is important that you and your prospective life partner come to a clear understanding on how to manage your finances after you tie the knot so that your marriage can withstand the ever present turbulence of the economy.
However, as with many of the situations that new couples have to face, it’s not what you have to deal with, it’s how you deal with it that decides whether or not you come out the other side together.
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