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Charles O. Anyiam-Osigwe Coordinator
By Charles Anyiam-Osigwe
I could not believe it when I read in a recent edition of Cosmopolitan magazine – “I went home with a guy after a date, and when he (finally) got an erection, he whipped out a ruler and measured it right in front of me.” Is this an extreme case of obsessing over one’s size or what?
The fact of the matter is that some men do focus on penis size, which sometimes makes them feel inadequate if they are not on the larger side. Has size really got anything to do with a man’s ability to please a woman in bed?
Lets look at the validity of often quoted pieces of folklore
Does penis size vary according to race?
Often stated, still not true. Penis size has absolutely nothing to do with race.
You can judge a guys penis size by looking at his hands and feet.
False. The only way to actually know the size of a penis is by measuring it. To measure the length of your penis, you have to be fully erect and measure from the base to the tip. The size of a flaccid penis is irrelevant because a flaccid penis is no use when it comes to having sex.
What is the average size of a man’s penis?
The average size of men’s penis when erect lengthwise is between five and six inches. The flaccid male organ averages around three and a half inches.The female vaginal canal is usually about 4 inches (+/- 1). Given the average size of a man’s penis and the length of the vaginal canal, the average man should be up to the task of pleasing a woman as long as he has the right technique.
Is penis enlargement possible?
Penis size is often associated with masculinity and power, those on the smaller side of the spectrum may be lured into promises of enlargement through bogus adverts promising to work wonders. The truth is, penis enlargement is not possible.
Women care about the size of a man’s penis.
Some women prefer a bigger penis — aesthetically or with respect to fitting their vagina. For the vast majority of women, penis size doesn’t matter. What matters to them most in their sexual relationship are: tenderness, concern, technique, and staying power. Sexual pleasure is more influenced by psychological connection and of course technique.
Penis size is everything.
Most of the sensitive nerves are located by the vaginal opening, which means that any penis size will be adequate for pleasurable intercourse. So to give pleasure to your partner, focus on the relevant areas.
Life isn’t a fairy tales where the Prince and Princess fall in love, marry and live happily ever after. It is a myth that intimacy is a given once couples fall in love, and that their sex life kicks blissfully in and all is joy and pleasure. Nothing can be far from the reality. Sex is something we learn to do. Sex is also something that partners have to work at taking into consideration each other’s needs to achieve intimacy and desired pleasure. It is a lifetime learning process, and as we grow older we need to adjust accordingly.
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