Steps To Great Monogamous Sex

By Charles O. Anyiam-Osigwe

So your sex life is not what it should be. The question to ask is: What is the cause?

Great monogamous sex begins with communication; ask yourselves questions:

1. What else is going on in your relationship? This may have a great bearing on why your sex life is not fulfilling.

2. Are there other reasons s/he may be unhappy, either at work or at home?

3. Does s/he have anxiety about any issue.

If a partner is feeling unsupported it is natural to be turned off.

Stressors can also cause a decrease in libido.

Try and rule out medical conditions. Consulting your doctor to get a clean bill of health may be advisable.

Many medications and illnesses result in a loss of interest. His doctor may also prescribe natural yohimbe root or Viagra to empower him – if the problem is with the man. The following tips too come in handy :

1. Talk to your partner to find out his or her needs. Share what you need. Tell him/her that you want to fulfill his/her every fantasy. Open the door for him/her to tell you all of his/her most secret wishes. Make it a judgment-free zone and you will be surprised at the results.

2. There are other ways of finding ecstasy. You may consider sex toys. Maybe you can buy some new toys together online from a woman-friendly adult shop.

3. Invite him/her to learn new sex techniques together like sexual meditation, Kundalini yoga or tantra.

4. Remove all love blocks and make your life together one of hot, sexy togetherness.

5. Offer him/her a nightly massage or daily morning oral pleasure with no expectation of anything in return.

6. Experiment with giving for the sake of giving.

7. Love him/her like s/he is a new lover.

8. Make him/her amazing meals with positive, loving energy.

9. Make your bedroom a sexy and inviting place for love. No TVs, computers or tablets allowed.

10.  Go on weekly dates or sleep over at a hotel.

11. Most importantly, do not get angry with each other. Anger begets anger and stress is a major turn-off.

12. You’ll figure this out best as a team, work as one. Pleasure is your birthright.

Good sex comes from relaxed and loving energy. Wishing you hot, sexy nights and mornings!

Charles O. Anyiam-Osigwe is the co-author of HIV/AIDS Education Quiz Book to be republished under the Pride Publications imprint in 2014 . He is also the co-author of Things I Wish Mummy and Daddy Told Me About Sex: A Sex Education Quiz Book to be published by Pride Publications in 2015

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