Things are changing, and African women are getting bolder. Modern women have one thing in common – independence. This disposition has caused a paradigm shift with the way they address issues of infidelity from their nonchalant partners
Men are considered more prone to infidelity (or maybe they are just easier to catch in the act) than women. And, scoff-worthy is the fact that they are less likely to forgive an unfaithful spouse.
But, these days, women are taking recourse in Moses’ law of “An eye for an eye”. So, what if you are unfaithful and your wife gets wind of it and decides to repay you in your own coin. How will you find out? Will you play ‘Inspector Gadget’?
They say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, making it almost impossible to spot the signs that your woman is cheating. But it may be too early to throw in the towel; although women are a lot slicker when it comes to infidelity, there are always subtle telltale signs to look out for.
Unusual attention to her looks
When she starts taking very good care of how she looks and is particular about her dressing, makeup and hairstyle more than usual, there may be smoke and a nearby fire.
Also, when she starts dressing provocatively as opposed to her usual conservative sense of style, she may be cheating.
Treats you with disdain
According to the relationship rulebook implanted in the hearts of lovers, a prerequisite of a happy union is mutual respect. But when you wife’s attitude changes towards you and she’s unbothered about pleasing you, this could mean that someone else is getting your deserved attention.
Reduced signs of affection, less interest in sex with you, fed up with your jokes which used to make her laugh till she cried, recoiling when you want to hold or kiss her are all signs that something is amiss. Many cheating women try to avoid close contact with their husbands in fear of getting caught or letting their guilt show.
Change in routine
When your wife changes her normal routine and doesn’t let you on, on what she’s up to, something might be wrong with your relationship. When a wife gets secretive and withdrawn, this is a pointer that she may be involved with someone else. Making sure she keeps her phone away from you, automatically hangs up the phone whenever you walk into a room, changing the passwords to her phone and emails are all signs to look out for. Also, if she’s evasive when you ask about her plans for the day, you may have a rival on your hands.
These are just a few, but telling signs that you will need to look out for to find out if your wife is cheating on you.
Now, if it turns out that she’s indeed cheating, try to remain calm. You have to decide how you’ll approach the issue, but never confront her in the presence of your kids. Also, no matter how angry you are, never get violent. Although this may be difficult, a calm approach is best in such situations and you stand a better chance of having a heart to heart talk with her in order to resolve the core problem.