Suddenly, some men have started looking at their wives suspiciously because of the viral news of the whole paternity scandal that involved a bank executive lately. There is certainly more than meets the eye. In a society where there is moral decadence, it is no longer becoming unheard of strange things people do these days.
While I won’t put the blame game solely on women who cheat on their husbands to make them father children that aren’t theirs, the men are not innocent either. Some married men wear the badge of honour of unfaithfulness with pride. Or how can we explain a married man having side chics?
Back as an undergraduate, in the hostel at night, we would see flashy cars parked outside. Men of different sizes and ages, most of them married, going out with girls old enough to be their daughters. This is just by the way. When a man cheats on his wife, he isn’t judged. The society takes it in good faith that it is expected and can be managed. When the tables turn and it is the woman. She is stigmatised and ostracized for life.
From the feminine angle, most women don’t cheat for cheating’s sake. There must be reasons. It could be that her husband has neglected her and she is getting attention from an outsider. How about cases that the man is impotent and he knows nothing about it? His wife may see it as a valid reason to be impregnated by someone else.
Yesterday, I was listening to a radio program that had people comment on the issue. Trust men, most of them said they would never put up with a wife deceives them with children that are not theirs. One caller reacting to whether he would ever do a DNA test for his children said that he wouldn’t bother. According to him, he doesn’t want the love he has for his children to die. He added that what one doesn’t know, doesn’t kill. Surprisingly another caller said it was not taboo to father a ‘bastard’ in his culture. He stated that even a fool can impregnate any lady. So why bother?
His stance got severe backlashes from other callers. People were wondering how someone doesn’t mind fathering children that are not his. So after seeing the children from childhood, raising them and paying their tuition and all, one day you find out that they are not yours.
Some men don’t need to do any DNA Tests for their children. Is there any need when the child is your splitting image or depicts certain characters like yours? This is evident in some celebrities who have baby mama’s up and down. One look at their children and you can tell the father. I would rather not mention names.
Every child is innocent no matter the circumstance. We should not allow them to suffer for what they didn’t create. The whole paternity test is not bad itself. What must be done must be done. The real issue is curbing unfaithfulness in marriage. Once we address that couples no longer have to distrust each other.