A beloved uncle of mine often said: “Loving without reasoning is a recipe for a disastrous relationship”
I don’t know if most girls are aware, but secretly, most men want to marry a virgin despite how many girls they’ve slept with.
In this age of pervasive promiscuity, it is important to note that sex is not to be indulged in lightly. As the mammy wagon philosopher will have us know, “Every action has its own Wahala”, so you have to “shine your eyes” (as we like to advise, with intense expression) and weigh the pros and cons before you engage in pre-marital sex. Passion and desire have a way of overruling reason and when this is the case, wahala dey.
There was a time when young boys and girls were taught the proper sequence and relationship progression between the opposite sex: attraction; love; marriage; sex; and family – in that order.
You’ll probably say this was the practice during olden days and the 21st century is different but in my opinion, when two people of the opposite sex are mutually attracted to each other, they should court, and if it leads to love, they should get married. After which they can become intimate by having sex.
However, I know the reality is a lot different. Teenage couples engage in pre-marital sex way before they even get into high school. from the inception of puberty, kids begin to get curious about their sexuality, and without proper guidance, these kids explore and venture into this terrain without giving thought to the consequences of their actions. Their older counterparts are no different either. We live in a world where pre-marital sex is rampant and normal. The sequence now is: attraction; sex; family; marriage (maybe); and love (optional).
But does it mean because premarital sex is the order of the day, this should be the right trajectory for relationships? Is it okay to engage in pre-marital sex?
We are only shown the fun side to it and not the negative impact it may have like the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) – AIDS, chlamydia, herpes, genital warts, gonorrhoea and syphilis. Also, there’s a likelihood of unwanted pregnancy and the heavy weight of guilt if you abort the child.
Thus, morality plays a vital role in dealing with the issue of pre-marital sex. So, whichever way you choose to go with your relationship, always let reason prevail.
Article was written by Chris Beya