Like a juror, man ponders on the verdict with great deliberation. He ponders whether it is safe to pay attention to the witness or to the attorney. He is lost in his own thoughts, looking through the windows of a clouded mind.
So is he, when he meets a lady. He ponders whether she is safe and a credible witness for him to listen to. He ponders on if or not he should open up his heart to her – a heart which has been direly sealed like a parcel packed to be delivered but forgotten making a home for cobwebs and dusts. To attempt to open it is a task too big to carry out.
So, he sits there, lost in thoughts on what to do and what not to do.
It is easier for a man to give substance (body) rather than self (heart). Most men do not associate the giving of their body with the giving of their heart but most women tend to tie the body and love together.
It is easier for a woman to give her body because to her, giving of her body typifies her commitment to her partner. Unknown to her, the body and the heart combines an elixir, an intoxicating yet sweet experience that causes a silly grin to emerge on the face of a man in the middle of the day.
It is therefore tragic that there are women who allow themselves to be sunk into the chasm of afflictive lust without love. These women end up being victims of traumatic experiences. They don’t value themselves and thus, hove their bodies away because they think it is the only way to get a man. They think their bodies are the only things they can trade within the game of love. Love is not a game, nor can it be traded. When a woman gives out her body easily, she loses worth in the eyes of men. If she doesn’t value herself, why should they?
The mentality of some men have proven that they have the capacity to have their affection in one place and their sexual energies in another. It is easier for them to give their bodies. What’s difficult is the giving of their heart.
Most men do not know and may not know if not told that love and sex are inseparable. They ought to respect sex as a sign of commitment and not a means you find satisfaction because a real woman values herself too much to be passed around from man to man like a football; a real woman gives it freely and on her own terms but only when he offers an altar of love and a safe sense of affection -this is true love.
It cannot be demanded or paid for or traded for, it comes only when the woman gives it freely and on her terms.
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