The rate of divorce is alarming. It is advisable for intending couples to seek premarital counselling to safeguard their marriage. It has been made easier now that some churches place the procedure as a prerequisite to be joined in holy matrimony.
It has been proven that premarital counselling is the greatest investment to make into your marriage. It has a huge pay off because you get to know your partner well and the marriage institution. Most couples who go through this have lower divorce rates than those who don’t. Here are reasons to have premarital counselling with your partner:
1. It addresses issues
Before exchanging marital vows, it is good to address issues whether big or small, You get to discuss problems couples likely face in marriage, that way you are better prepared. Premarital counselling reveals your partner’s belief and values. That way you are better informed of what you are getting into. It is more about practical marriage issues such as religion, number of children, how to treat in-laws etc. Knowledge of how to deal with these situations help in proper management and conflict resou#lution.
2. It creates time for couples
Wedding planning and preparations are tasking. Some couples hardly have to be fully involved in their relationships. Unfortunately, less than 25% of all couples do some kind of marriage preparation in the lead-up to the big day. While you consider your wedding budget and prioritize where your money should be spent, ensure your invest in the life of your marriage.
3. Communicate effectively
Communication is the lifeblood of relationships. Through premarital counselling, couples can effectively communicate their needs and expectations to each other. Normally, people change as they get older, this affects their relationships. This change brings different perspectives, expectations and needs. Notwithstanding, with proper communication, both partners can evolve together in the relationship and bond stronger.
3. Defining values
People have different values which affect the way they respond to certain situations, how they believe and think. Sometimes two people with similar values may still disagree. During premarital counselling, couples have better understanding of what values are most important to them especially the ones they would like to pass to their children. Pre-wedding counsellors help in the discovery these values and their place in your marriage.
4. Understanding the two families
One of the most challenging parts of marriage can be the union of two families. There is no way marriage can be separated from family ties. Questions like ‘ How do you view money?’, ‘What do you do for Christmas? How many kids do you want?” are functions of family upbringing. Some people are influenced by their by upbringing and exhibit it in their marriage. It is important to explore your family background, your relationship with relatives, and your vision before marriage.
5. Discover something new
Premarital therapy sessions can bring healing from hurtful past experiences. It also opens up other unknown deep aspects of sex, expectations and other topics. It is eye opener into the world of your would -be spouse and what to expect in the marriage. Your spouse’s relationship with your in-laws will usually reflect on how your children will be disciplined and treated. Hence, pay attention to other relationships and if the person suffered from child abuse.