A man of God once said that you don’t prepare “in” marriage but prepare “for” marriage. This is because marriage is meant to be for life. Some people believe that marriage would solve all their problems but it takes much hard work from both parties. If you are not ready or mature, you would struggle in the marriage. Do you want to know if you are ready or not for marriage? The following would help you decide:
1. You are so used to your single life
When you have stayed single for years, and have grown into your routines and lifestyle, it’s hard to give all that up. Marriage means sharing your life with someone else, and that can be scary if you’re not ready for it. If you are not ready to let go of your independence, then marriage is definitely not for you. You need to be prepared to share everything with your partner- including your time and space.
2. You are not comfortable being someone’s wife or husband
Marriage means being someone’s partner for life. That is a lot of hard work if you’re not used to it, especially if you always put yourself first. If you are not ready to take on that responsibility, then marriage is definitely not for you. You need to be prepared to handle anything and everything your partner throws at you. You should also be comfortable with giving time and energy as your partner gives you.
3. You feel you are not good enough
It is one thing to want to be married, it is another to believe you are marriage material and this lack self-esteem. If you doubt your abilities and worth then marriage would not be for you. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. If you don’t think you’re good enough for marriage, then you definitely shouldn’t get married. You need to be confident in yourself and your relationship before getting married.
4. You are sitting on the fence
Do you belong to the ‘marriage na scam’ group? If that is the mentality of you have, then how can they be ready to get married? Marriage is a sacred institution that should not be taken lightly. If you are unsure about whether or not you believe in it, you can not commit yourself to your partner. You need to have faith in the marriage institution if you’re going to make that commitment.
5. You are not ready for the stress of planning a wedding
Weddings are undoubtedly very stressful to plan and carry out. Many people keep putting off finding meaningful relationships because they can’t picture the perfect wedding for themselves. Please, do yourself a favour and plan your wedding the way it suits you. Everyone need not have a flashy ceremony. A small gathering of really genuine friends is okay to have for a wedding ceremony. So don’t let the stress behind a huge wedding ceremony scare you away from marriage.