It is funny for people to think they are in a relationship but they are dating themselves. This is because they have ignored the signs and continued to make excuses.
Relationships are not one-sided. It takes commitment from both parties. When one person is only at the receiving end and the other does the giving, that is not love. People have time for those they love no matter how busy they get. Giving also comes naturally, the emotions flow freely and there is peace when you love somebody.
However, some people are hell-bent on sticking with another even when it is obvious they are not interested. These people are wasting their time, energy, resources when they should have invested in someone more receptive.
Save yourself further heartache and stop dating yourself when you notice your ‘partner’ gives you the following signs:
1. He/ She is always busy
People prioritise those they care for. Even the president who is ever busy still has time for his family. How much more your partner? There is no excuse that they are preoccupied with work. After work, you should be on his/her schedule. Don’t waste your time on someone who talks to you once in a blue moon. He/She should miss you to want to keep in touch and tell you how their day went and others.
2. He/ She is secretive
A partner who does not want to be seen with you in public is deceitful. You can tell when someone is in love. They would want to show off their partners on social media, to their friends and family. If your partner is hiding you especially from his/her friends and family, suspect foul play.
3. He/She is stingy
Love is not selfish. You are dating yourself if your partner has not bought or given you anything. It does not have to be pricey but the little sacrifices also count. If your partner is all about themselves, dust your slippers and run. That is not a relationship, it is parasitism.
4. He/She never uses ‘we’ in conversations
When you see your partner as part of you and your future, you don’t dwell on yourself. It would be about both of you. However, if this isn’t the case and your partner is talks about themselves without including you. They don’t have any plans for you.
5. He/She is distracted
A loving partner would be interested and interesting. They would pay attention to what you do and everything that concerns you. If your partner does not listen to you and seems carried away with other activities, you should leave them for someone who will.