Dear Dorothy,
I made a terrible mistake, and I don’t know what to do. A few months ago, I was chattingwith someone online, and things got a little out of hand. I trusted them and sent a few intimate photos. Now, they are threatening to share them with my family and friends unless I send more or pay them money.
I feel so ashamed and scared. I don’t want to be judged, but I also don’t want my private photos exposed. I don’t know how to make this stop. Please, what should I do?
-Diana
Dear Diana,
Firstly, take a deep breath. You are not alone in this, and you are not to blame. Many people have found themselves in similar situations, and there is a way forward.
This is blackmail, plain and simple, and giving in to the demands will only encourage your tormentor to continue. Instead of responding to them, block them immediately on all platforms. Do not send any more photos or money, no matter how much they pressure you.
Now, take action. Report them to the relevant authorities. This could be the police or an online safety organisation in your country. If the threats are happening on a social media platform, report the user to the site administrators. Many platforms take blackmail and harassment seriously.
It might feel terrifying, but confiding in someone you trust whether a close friend, family member, or support group can help you feel less alone. If you’re worried about the photos being leaked, remind yourself that anyone who shares intimate images without consent is the one in the wrong, not you.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, please seek emotional support from a trusted counsellor or helpline. You deserve to move past this without shame or fear. Stay strong.
-Dorothy