Dear Dorothy,
The rate at which celebrity marriages are crashing is making me doubt the efficacy of true love. The saddening part is that it does not only apply to celebrities alone, even the person next door makes marriage look like a prison yard or warzone. I like my freedom and space, I don’t want to make the mistake of ending up with someone regrettable.
Daily we are bombarded with news of domestic violence, suicide, child abuse, hatred, and divorce between couples. These are people that once vowed to love each other forever, then all of the sudden, the love went cold and they became big enemies. If this is what love is all about, I don’t want to be part of it. I rather remain single. What do you think?
My Dear,
I couldn’t agree more with your observation of the marriage trends nowadays. Some celebrities have spent a fortune on their wedding, neglecting the main thing -marriage with their partner. Even unpopular people too are treating the marriage institution badly. This is because of a clash in values/ beliefs and the rush to impress people that don’t matter. They forget that marriage is for matured adults, which is a function of several factors besides age.
I would advise you to not give up on marriage. There is true love and the marriage institution is not a prison pronouncement. You should change your focus from people who have failed in that area. Stop looking at those celebrities and people who didn’t do well in their marriages. Instead turn to those that are doing amazingly well, even though they have their low moments. They should be your role models and whet your appetite to find the right partner.
Join marriage networks on social media or religious institutions that uphold the tenets of good marriages. You would be guided from making the same mistakes as those of failed marriages. I hope this helps.