Honestly, it is hard for two people truly in love to practice celibacy especially with the hormones in action. Waiting while dating takes a lot of self-discipline. The fact that your minds are saying you will stay celibate does not mean your body will conform automatically. There would be cases where emotions may take over and you become overcome with the flesh. Here is how to get out of that rut to stay chaste till when ready:
1.Occupy your mind
Keep busy that your mind has no time to wander about. Occupy your mind with other things that you have no space for sexual thoughts. It is easier to abstain from what you are not thinking about. So try to not dwell too much on sex.
2. Guard your space
Be mindful of things that would trigger the desire for sexual contact. Movies, clips, photos, people, etc. Mind you, spending time with your partner will also sometimes trigger this desire. However, you must be disciplined enough to know what and what not to allow.
3. Know when to flee
It is better to avoid tempting situations than find yourself in them. The best thing to do when the desires stir up is to flee. You have decided to stay celibate, do your best to stay chaste while dating. It won’t be easy, but it can be done anyway.
4. Think of the end result
Think of the reason why you are practising celibacy. You are probably saving yourself for the right time while married. That should motivate to keep to your decision. Knowing that you have a reward for what you are doing will keep you fired up.
5. Talk to someone reliable
It could be quite awkward to ask one or two married people you know if they waited for sex before marriage. But then, if you somehow know someone who managed to abstain from sex before tying the knot, talk to him or her. It would also require some kind of close relationship to about something as intimate as this. You can be lucky enough to get such people talking and learn from their tips.
6. Discipline
The truth is that none of these things mentioned above will completely, absolutely take away the sexual urges. At some periods it could be quite a real struggle to rein it all in; but then again, putting these urges under control is the very underpinning idea of celibacy and you must have known that before embarking on this kind of relationship. This is why the need for sexual discipline cannot be overemphasized. Practise restraint, discipline and mental fortitude to keep your eyes on the goal to stay chaste.