Singlehood is a phase that everybody goes through. For some people, it takes longer, for others it doesn’t. The best time to prepare for marriage is when one is single. We are to prepare ‘for’ marriage and not prepare ‘in’ marriage. This way we save ourselves a lot of heartaches and issues that stem from broken marriages.
Now that you know it is good to prepare for marriage while you are still single and not married, how do you go about it? These 5 tips would help. They are:
- Save money
It has been proven that most marriage issues stem from money and sex. Most times newly married couples tend to be broke after marriage. This is because they spend so much on the wedding which is a day than the marriage itself which is a lifetime. As a single lady/man if you develop the habit of saving, you are more financially independent and intelligent. Therefore marriage would not be a burden because you have something to fall back on. With marriage comes more responsibilities, bills, children and different involvements, all of these require money to finance. Do well to start saving money to prevent you from debt and other stress.
2. Be knowledgeable in marriage matters
How would you go into an interview without having knowledge of your employers and their company? This also applies to marriage. Even though marriage is not a one-size-fits-all and every marriage is peculiar, staying grounded in marriage matters would help you know how to respond to situations. Read marriage books, blogs and attend marriage seminars. You should cut yourself from people who give marriage a bad name. Instead have couples whose marriages appear to be ideal as your role models. Identify what works for them and see how you can apply it to your case.
3. Know yourself
The wise man, Socrates said ‘Know thyself’. If you don’t know yourself well, how do you plan to know somebody else? You can’t give what you don’t have. When you know yourself, your strengths, weaknesses and all, you become more in charge. More so, know the kind of person you want as a person. Use your singlehood to identify the qualities of the right partner while you are also working on yourself same.
4. Get busy
Never think that marriage would solve all your problems. Get busy building a good name and reputation for yourself. If you are career-driven, work on scaling the career ladder by having mentors. If you are into business, do the same. Don’t allow time to pass you by because you are waiting for ‘Mr Right’ to show up. Most times, he comes when you are busy doing something productive with your life and fulfilling your purpose.
5. Know your creator
You can never understand the usefulness of anything without seeking the creator. Singlehood is a good time to get closer to God. At least you are not thinking for yourself, your husband and your children eventually. This is the time to work in your creator’s vineyard. It is good to seek your creator while you are young and not when you are very old and life seems meaningless.